STRESS MANAGEMENT FOR TEENS

Janet Etzel , MS, LCPC, NCCC

 

Did you realize that stressed spelled backwards is desserts?

You may have heard that stress has a good and a bad side. The good side keeps you alert, active and involved in the world, the bad side can keep you from enjoying life and can be mildly to severely hazardess to your health.

Stress is a normal reaction to life for people of all ages. It's caused by your body's instinct to protect itself from emotional or physical pressure or from danger.

What are some of the stresses that face teens?

School demands and frustrations

Negative thoughts and feelings about themselves

Changes in their bodies

Problems with friends

Unsafe living environment/neighborhood

Separation or divorce of parents

Chronic illness or severe problems in the family

Death of a loved one

Moving or changing schools

Taking on too many activities or having too high expectations

Family financial problems

Signs and symptoms of stress include:

Feeling depressed, edgy, guilty, tired, hostile, angry, anxious or irritable

Having headaches and backaches

Eating too much or too little

Upset stomach, diarrhea, or indigestion

Trouble sleeping

Laughing or crying for no reason

Blaming other people for bad things that happen to you

Avoiding other people

Only seeing the down side of a situation

Feeling like things that you used to enjoy aren't fun or are a burden

Resenting other people or your responsibilities

Lip biting, nail nibbling, tooth grinding, palm sweating

Under too much pressure, many people wheeze, ache, sneeze, or break out in rashes

What doesn’t help with stress management?

Escaping your problems by using drugs and alcohol. They make your situation more complicated to deal with.

What does help with stress management?

Eat good meals

Drink less caffeine

Get enough sleep

Exercise regularly

Take a bath or shower

Avoid too many changes at once

Set reasonable goals for yourself

Learn relaxation exercises

Rehearse and practice situations, which cause stress

Break large tasks into smaller, more attainable tasks

Decrease negative self-talk

Learn to feel good about doing a competent or "good enough" job rather than demanding perfection from yourself and others

Take a break from stressful situations; activities like listening to music, talking to a friend, drawing, writing, or spending time with a pet can reduce stress

Build a network of friends who help you cope in a positive way

Make a list of what's causing your stress

Take control of what you can and give yourself a break

Don't commit yourself to things you can't or don't want to do

Get involved in extracurricular activities at school or in your community

Take a walk outside to clear your head and relax for a while

Reach out for help when you need it; call a friend, family member, or use one of these resources:

National Youth Crisis Hotline
800-448-4663

National Adolescent Suicide Hotline
800-621-4000

Crisis Intervention Center
800-333-4444

Help Now Hotline
800-435-7609

National Adolescent Suicide Hotline
800-621-4000

Teen Health Issues Web site: http://health4teens.org

 

 

How parents and teachers can help teens:

Monitor if stress is affecting teen’s health, behavior, thoughts, or feelings

Listen carefully to teens and watch for overloading

Learn and model stress management skills

Support involvement in sports and other pro-social activities

 

Books:

“The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families” by Stephen R. Covey Foreword by Sandra Merrill Covey

“Family Guide to Emotional Wellness” edited by Patrick Fanning and Matthew McKay

 

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Source: The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry